cis ppl talking shit about trans men: stop.
like. transfeminine folks and to a certain extent dfab non-transmasc folks are thrown under the bus by trans men at every opportunity. but if you, as a cis person, say you hate trans men, you’re not being Edgy and Progressive; you’re being a transphobe. full stop.
You know, once you start talking about all the people who are totally allowed to say they hate an oppressed minority, it occurs to me to wonder whether it might not be that group that is being “thrown under the bus”.
Because, honestly, I know a fair number of trans guys and trans girls, and by and large, they are pretty much consistently excellent to each other, because they have a whole lot of common cause and common experience. The folks who are transitioning all know about trying to find doctors and get a diagnosis that’ll get hormones covered and things like that, and they all know about misgendering, and they have pretty similar pain.
And then there’s a small number of people who come in and attack them. And some of those people mostly attack the trans girls, and some of them mostly attack the trans guys, but by and large, it’s all the same stuff, and it’s all shitty behavior. And the really weird thing is, the worst of it by far has usually come from people who are going on and on about how the trans guys are the bad guys, and it’s totally cool to hate them. The new qualifier of “hey, cis people, stop hating on trans men” is sort of a testimony to how deep the corruption has gotten; it’s now widespread enough for tumblr’s faux activists to spend a ton of time hating on trans guys that they’re starting to realize that, hey, once you communicate that this group of people is horrible and it’s cool to hate on them, other people will do it too. And then it’ll turn out you were supporting transphobia all along.
Suggestion: What if everybody stopped hating on people for their body, gender identity, or combination thereof? And since we can’t impose this on other people, what if we just individually went ahead and did that? Crazy, no?
Like, what if it was just “people talking shit about people: stop”? That would be sorta cool.
if you talk shit about transfolk, even if you only talk shit about one specially designated kind of transfolk that your friends have all agreed it’s ok to talk shit about because “they” do something you don’t like, you’re a transphobe and you can kiss my fat ass.